Tao te Ching

To be whole, let yourself break.
To be straight, let yourself bend.
To be full, let yourself be empty.
To be new, let yourself wear out.
To have everything, give everything up.
Knowing others is a kind of knowledge; knowing yourself is wisdom.
Conquering others requires strength; conquering yourself is true power.
To realize that you have enough is true wealth.
Pushing ahead may succeed, but staying put brings endurance.
Die without perishing, and find the eternal.
To know that you do not know is strength.
Not knowing that you do not know is a sickness.
The cure begins with the recognition of the sickness.
Knowing what is permanent: enlightenment.
Not knowing what is permanent: disaster.
Knowing what is permanent opens the mind.
Open mind, open heart.
Open heart, magnanimity.
Lao Zi (Tao Te Ching)

Magnanimous –adjective 1. generous in forgiving an insult or injury; free from petty resentfulness or vindictiveness: to be magnanimous toward one's enemies. 2. high-minded; noble: a just and magnanimous ruler. 3. proceeding from or revealing generosity or nobility of mind, character, etc.: a magnanimous gesture of forgiveness.

I see You as Me...

I see only so much good in you but you see so much faults in me.. When you were angry and blamed me..i can only wonder why are you react like this.. You see? We are all only reflecting our innerself to the outside. We are after all Mirrors .. reflecting and projecting unto each other and into the world outside.

I am still sad sometimes why you dont take the responsibilty for your own feelings but blamed all your fears on me...until I saw that running away was the only way you knew how to react to your own fears and anger. I then understood...

My journey has brought me to see that whatever happened to me is my own doing. Do you have the integrity to take responsibility instead of getting angry and still seeing me as the triggers. Even till now you still see me as a trigger and still get iritated. Do you know why ?

Your being with another of that particular age is clearly reflecting your space now. Can you see that? I asked you why you let her into your space is to understand where your mind level is at this moment.. which is where it has always been. Your stories of " we get along better or she has no temper etc " all doesnt matter anymore as in time you will also see that all these are only in your mind reflections. I asked as this is just another story for learning sake.

All this time it was just myself assuming you were all the qualities I created for you as they were the qualities I see in myself.
Thats why it was so depressing when I saw clearly that it was just the mind bluffing me again and again and again.... The mind created the things which I thought you were because I needed to tell ME that you were actually good enough for me... that I finally found such a good guy that accepted me... that you can fulfill the needs in me... etc etc.. all just stories. Sometimes I still believe these stories are true, thats when the sadness comes again.

When sadness, anger, fears, frustrations are here, I know it is the ego mind playing its games again. Its the same for everyone. If you can see all the triggers that comes your way, be aware and learn from it, then you will be one step wiser. Until then, you will still be relying on your religious beliefs & concepts again.

MIRROR

The good you find in others, is in you too.

The faults you find in others, are your faults as well.

After all, to recognize something you must know it.

The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.

The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.

The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.

To change your world, you must change yourself.

To blame and complain will only make matters worse.

Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.

What you see in others, shows you yourself.

See the best in others, and you will be your best.

Give to others, and you give to yourself.

Appreciate beauty, and you will be beautiful.

Admire creativity, and you will be creative.

Love, and you will be loved.

Seek to understand, and you will be understand.

Listen, and your voice will be heard.

HABITUAL PATTERNS

As we follow the teachings and as we practice, we will inevitably discover certain truths about ourselves that stand out prominently: There are places where we always get stuck; there are habitual patterns and strategies that are the legacy of negative karma, which we continuously repeat and reinforce; there are particular ways of seeing things­those tired old explanations of ourselves and the world around us­that are quite mistaken yet which we hold onto as authentic, and so distort our whole view of reality.

When we persevere on the spiritual path, and examine ourselves honestly, it begins to dawn on us more and more that our perceptions are nothing more than a web of illusions. Simply to acknowledge our confusion, even though we cannot accept it completely, can bring some light of understanding and spark off in us a new process, a process of healing.

~ Sogyal Rinpoche